Married Young: Really That Big of a Deal?

No one should get married at a young age!

Just kidding. Was hoping you thought this was going to be a rant about young kids thinking they were adults. Well, it’s not. I support young couples making real life decisions and standing by them. In fact, I was one of them!

I was married at 21; my little sister and sister-in-law both at 20. 

There were some that judged and criticized, but our close family and friends stood beside us. 
(4 years and going strong!) “Husbands and wives who report that they ‘always’ get support from family and friends are significantly more likely to report that they are ‘very happy’ in their marriages, and that they are not prone to separation or divorce.” (State of Our Unions 2011)


There is a majority opinion out there about the "appropriate" age to be considered for marriage. But what is that age, I ask you? How can you define what the Lord's timing is in another's life? What number satisfies?

The average age for getting married (the first time) has jumped in the United States. The total number of marriages, falling. 

“Much of this decline…results from the delaying of first marriages until older ages: the median age at first marriage went from 20 for females and 23 for males in 1960 to about 26 and 28, respectively, in 2010.” (State of Our Unions 2011)  

The total number of marriages in the United States is shrinking. The overall happiness in marriages has worsened. (Stevenson and Wolfers)

I see a trend.

The figure below “indicates, the percentage of both men and women responding “very happy” has declined moderately over the past forty years.” (State of Our Unions 2011)


Which is a very sad thing. Marriage is actually A VERY GOOD THING.

“Marriage improves emotional well-being in part by giving people a sense that their life has meaning and purpose.” (Gallagher and Waite, Case for Marriage, p. 75)

"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." (Proverbs 18:22)

As we age, we become more and more dependent on routine, OUR routine. We like the way we fold the laundry, how much cream goes into our cup of joe and what show we watch at 9PM.

The older we get, the deeper these particulars grow inside each of us.

When married at a young age, the two learn to become one flesh (Mark 10:8) before many of these idiosyncrasies are formed. Not two separate machines operating simultaneously about each other.

It is a beautiful thing to see two independent people so delighted in each other that they grow as one. One desire. One hope. One future.

When marrying at a young age, you learn the true value of self-sacrifice. Humility. FLEXIBILITY. The Lord rewards the humble. In 1 Peter, we are called to "be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble." When we humble ourselves, the Lord declares that He will lift us up! He will honor our marriage and our commitments.

 


To all of you late bloomers out there that didn’t rush the ole’ ball and chain: this post is not to make you feel slighted! ;) Just give us little “whipper-snappers” a fighting chance!